Living with a chronic illness or as a caregiver to a loved one with a serious health issue can be stressful on a day-to-day basis. When additional activities associated with the holidays – shopping, cooking, entertaining, visiting and more – are added, it is easy to feel overwhelmed. However, careful planning and simple strategies can help you avoid exhaustion, flare-ups and stress. Here are a few tips:
- Plan ahead. Try to avoid last-minute parties, visits and obligations. Having a clear idea of holiday events well ahead of time can help you plan in advance. Schedule preparation time as well as rest time in order to conserve your energy so that you can be fully present.
- Don’t be afraid to say no. Self-awareness and self-care are essential during the busy holiday season. You know what you will be able to accomplish and how much you can handle. Give yourself permission to turn down invitations and avoid situations that will drain your energy.
- Remember to prioritize your health. Important routines – medication, therapy, diet, and doctors’ appointments – must be maintained, regardless of your holiday plans. Try as much as possible to maintain those schedules. In addition, be sure that caregivers are taking care of their own health. Only by remaining well can a caregiver continue to be there for their loved ones.
- Scale back your expectations. It’s OK to host a smaller holiday gathering, to contribute a store-bought dessert rather than a home-baked treat, or to give gift cards instead of personal gifts this holiday season. Remember that the true meaning of the holidays lies in being with friends and loved ones. Trying to live up to holidays past or your own image of the perfect celebration may not be realistic or even necessary.
- Do a little at a time. Whether you are addressing cards, wrapping gifts, or cooking a meal, break the task down into smaller chunks. Start early, and schedule time to rest and unwind between chores.
- Ask for help. How often have you heard the words, “Is there anything I can do to help?” People truly do want to lend a hand, but often they don’t know exactly what you need. Don’t hesitate to ask those around you to pitch in. If you are financially able, hire someone to help with chores such as shopping, cooking and cleaning.
- Take time for you. Schedule time to do things that provide you with a sense of peace and pleasure. Read a book, watch your favorite TV show, talk to a friend, meditate or just breathe. These mini-breaks will help you to recharge your batteries so that you can keep going!